Our relationship with our builder has been a long-distance affair, with communication predominantly by email and in Spanish. This is an endeavor based on faith and trust. It has not always worked smoothly, since the ideal is for the client to be on-site and work face to face with the builder. At times, we asked Eric to help us with translation, but more recently we are relying on web-based translation programs which seems to be a more facilitative process since it allows us to communicate directly with no middle person.
We halted construction for about six months because we ran out of money. When we started the building project, the peso was 9 to the dollar, a very favorable exchange rate for Mexico, which meant that construction costs were higher for us. We completed about 60 percent of the casita in this economic environment, and in the process exceeded our budget. In addition, the builder decided independently to go ahead and build our second bedroom and bathroom (though we had asked not to add these rooms now to keep costs down) because he felt the construction would be stronger in earthquake-country Oaxaca. When we arrived for a visit in summer 2008 and walked out to the construction, there was our casita complete with foundation, walls, a roof, two bedrooms, two bathrooms and the kitchen-LR-DR great room, and 30 percent over budget.
But, it’s Mexico and we’re working it out. Using Safe Send, we are sending remittances to the local bank in the village bits and pieces at a time — $1,000 here, another $600 there, another $200 here — piecing it together and trying to get enough money down there to keep the project going. We also want to get as much money down there now as possible since the peso is hovering at 14 to the dollar.
So, this week the master is putting the fine finish of stucco on the master bedroom and bathroom walls. We exchanged photos of what rough stucco and smooth stucco looked like and made our choices based upon photographs. Our builder sent us links to local resources for tile to selections to surround the shower area, bathroom sink and toilet, and hot water heater. Perhaps, if I were there, I might have selected colorful handmade and painted tiles and a Talavera tile sink. But, we are long-distance, relying on the goodwill of the builder (at only 10 percent commission for him above construction costs) to send us links, and to make life easier for all of us, I am not being particular.
At this point, we just want to move ahead and get it done. So our sink and toilet will be plain white, and that’s okay and I’m satisfied because there will be enough color using paint and art work for visual stimulation. Afterall, it’s only a sink and toilet for goodness sake! We will pour the red-infused concrete floor in the rainy season when the humidity is higher and the drying process will be slower to prevent cracking.
I think the greatest challenges, of course, are our physical distance, the language barriers, and multicultural sensitivities. My husband is now the primary communicator with the builder. Man to man talk seems to work better and is going more smoothly now that I’ve stepped away from the direct decision making. I’m learning to let go of control and go along with what the builder thinks is best. After all, it’s his village and his culture and their way of doing things. In the end, it’s the relationship we will need to nurture, since the builder is a family member, too.

